Ethos

Life is meaningful even under the most tragic of circumstances. Having the means to live does not equate to having a meaning or purpose for living. An existential vacuum can result in depression, aggression and addiction. The perception of meaning is about "becoming aware of what can be done about a given situation." There are three avenues to meaning - work, love and inner growth through submission to God, personal sacrifice and suffering. Any positive transformation will require the voluntary surrender of what used to be of value, for something yet to be attained which will be of superior value. Hence, it involves delayed gratification which is often painful.

I believe suicide can affect all people regardless of age, gender, class, nationality or creed.

There are parasuicidal tendencies in all of us – so many flirt with the idea of ending their own existence, and indulge in suicide ideation. It’s the pain of what they’re going through, and their hopelessness about their future that leads to such a fatal decision.

Nevertheless, it is possible to teach hopeless people to think in  hopeful, life-affirming ways. Not only is it true that ‘where there is life, there is hope’, but the inverse also holds true – ‘where there is hope, there is life’.

We need a revival of community spirit whereby people look out for each other and become each other’s keeper. Secrets and lies always precede tragedy. When the communication lines between family members, neighbours and best friends break down, difficult emotions become suppressed and not resolved.

Individualism is the philosophy which is ruling the masses. We feel no sense of loyalty or accountability to God nor significant others.

It is worth repeating that suicide solves nothing, it only causes a domino effect of misery and grief. The victim’s obvious self-hatred and self-rejection will rebound unto those who loved him/her (even if they were unaware of that love whilst they were alive) who will be left with a legacy of the ultimate rejection and long-term grief.